Today we are going to talk about permission for pleasure. But first I’ve got to acknowledge just how hard it is to prioritize pleasure in a world hell bent on making women feel guilty for having needs. Not to mention the unrealistic expectations placed on us.
Since social distancing began responsibilities and stress have both increased while supports have decreased. I find myself stealing moments from my family here and there to work. This week I realized that my inner self-talk sounded something like this, “there’s too much to do, there’s not enough time, and who do you think you are to take more time from your family?”
Ugh, the “good girl” in me thought I had checked this box off on my healing journey. But that’s the thing, healing is not linear. We are always coming back to the same lessons to deepen in our practice. And the collective wound around scarcity is so heightened in our world right now that of course it’s getting activated inside us.
Even the phrase ‘stealing moments’ is rooted in the belief that when we focus on feeling good we are taking something from someone. The truth is that when we as women feel good, when we are relaxed, when we are nourished then we are more present for the people in our lives, then we are more resourced to make decisions and then we are more engaged in our work.
First things first, let’s break down what pleasure actually means….
· a feeling of happy satisfaction and enjoyment.
· a source of delight or joy
· to give sexual enjoyment or satisfaction to another
Pleasure is a multisensory experience that engages sight, taste, smell, sound and touch. It brings you into the present moment. But first you’ve gotta slow down. Acts of pleasure are things we do for the sake of feeling good. There’s no hidden agenda and nothing to accomplish.
This week’s invitation is give yourself permission for pleasure in whatever sources your joy.
Really go for it. Print the certificate, fill it out and commit to making time for feeling good this week.
For me pleasure this week has looked like: a frozen popsicle with juices dripping down on a hot day, a few extra minutes after the shower to put on some of my favorite lotion, hanging in my hammock and looking up at the trees, dancing to the Hamilton soundtrack, swimming in the pool with my kids (instead of watching them swim) and a date with my husband (wink, wink).
I’d love to know what brought you pleasure this week and/or what resistance came for you around this if you feel called to share.
Cheering you on from the Ocean State! You deserve to feel good from the inside out.