MEET YOUR GUIDE
HOLISTIC MENTAL HEALTH COUNSELOR, STORYTELLER, MOTHER WOUND EDUCATOR, EMBODIMENT COACH, JOURNEYDANCE GUIDE, EXPRESSIVE ARTS FACILITATOR, SPACE HOLDER, THRESHOLD GUIDE, MAMA & WIFE, TRUTH TELLER
I spent the first three decades of my life desperately wanting to be seen, heard and truly known while equally working so hard hiding in plain sight and trying to hold it all together. I spent the last decade of my life deep in my own re-mothering cultivating the shame resilience, belonging and inner safety I needed to call forth even my most tender, sensitive, weird and wild parts. Now I guide others to do the same because the world needs us in our FULL power.
✔ MA Holistic Mental Health Counseling from Salve Regina University
✔ Certificate in Advanced Graduate Study in the Expressive and Creative Arts from Salve Regina University
✔ Journey Dance Guide
✔ Reiki 1 + 2
✔ Toni Bergin's Embodied Transformation Method
✔ Sarah Durham Wilson’s Maiden to Mother Mentor Training
REMEMBRANCE • RECLAMATION • FIERCE LOVE • WILDNESS • BELONGING • BRIDGING
WORD WEAVING • LIGHT IN THE DARK • VISIONING • THRESHOLD CROSSING
RAW TRUTH • INTERDEPENDENCE • EMBODIED LOVE • FREEDOM
The woman who is hiding in plain sight.
Her needs, her emotions, her truth, her gifts, her magic, her medicine, her voice, her power and her fullness are all right there ready to be TAPPED into by guiding her in removing what blocks the free flow of her wildest self-expression.
Creatives, leaders, healers, brave dreamers, cycle breakers, wild women, black sheep, multi-passionate people struggling to weave their gifts, the "too much" woman, those who never felt like they fit in because they are here to create something new.
She values truth and integrity in all things though she struggles to bring her raw truth to the surface.
She seeks freedom from the boxes she learned to check and the identities she wears like armor.
She feels trapped and knows she's ready to cross a threshold but fear of the unknown holds her back.
She desires authenticity and fears she will lose love/belonging if she shows up as who she is instead of who she learned to be.
She is and has always been a lone wolf trying to be it all and do it all on her own. She is ready to break this pattern and let herself receive.
She is deeply creative and intuitive though she doesn't claim this fully.
She is READY to tap into her feminine essence, reclaim wholeness, inner peace, sensuality, joy, support, permission to be unapologetically who she is and to know she belongs. She is ready to initiate into her power.
What I do best
GUIDING YOU HOME TO THE TRUTH OF WHO YOU ARE
I serve as a guide home to the truth of who you are before the conditioning, trauma and pain of being human caused you to disconnect from your body, your truth, your voice and your power.
Too deep, too intense, too emotional, too sensitive. These are some of the internalized beliefs I carried with me that kept me from myself. Like so many woman, I learned to exile the parts of me that the world told me didn't fit in.
Be nice, be helpful, be kind, be good, be quiet, be a good girl, be happy, smile, be grateful, follow the rules but think for yourself, don’t be too bossy, don’t be too emotional, don’t be too dramatic, don’t be too loud, be skinny but not too skinny, be strong but not too strong, be sexy but not too sexy, be assertive but not too assertive, be smart but not too smart, be who you want to be but also fit in, have a successful career and have a family, or ultimately BE EVERYTHING but feel NOTHING. This is what we are dealing with and where I can help you break FREE.
HOW I HELP
Holistic Counseling & Coaching
Meeting you where you are, supporting you with the unconditionally loving presence you crave along with teaching you skills and strategies to support you to feel empowered in your day-to-day life.
Supporting you to understand what the Mother Wound is and how it affects your relationship to yourself and others. Mother Wound Healing gets at the root of those patterns that feel hardest for you to break free from.
Embodiment & Somatic
Helping you to take your healing deeper into your body where memories, emotions and traumas are stored. You'll be guided to access, release and transform those stuck energies-marrying action with space-holding.
Guided Visualization & Energy Healing
Offering powerful, personalized visualizations and energy healing to restore a sense of calm, nourished, receptive energy. These sessions can be recorded so you can receive the healing or repeat the visualization as often as you would like.
"If you are like me and sometimes struggle with knowing whether something is right for you, I welcome you to take this as a sign to say YES!
Shaelyn is the reigning queen of space-holding, a woman who will inspire you by the shameless way she lets joy bubble out of her, and a fierce supporter of any woman on the path to healing. I am eternally grateful to have her in my arena.”
- Bethany O.
LET'S GO DEEPER...
IT'S SO GOOD TO MEET YOU, I'M SHAELYN.
I am a creative midwife, advocate, cheerleader and guide for women who want to reconnect with their true nature. My medicine is holy, giddy and gritty.
I blend counseling, coaching, somatic healing, the expressive arts and energy medicine bridging modern science and ancient wisdom, using a trauma informed lens.
My zone of genius is creating individualized programs for women that nourish their capacity and grow their courage to make the life changes they desire. Bringing women out of hiding, offering a hand in the darkness of uncertainty, and walking them over the threshold into newer versions of themselves.
I’m also just a human doing my best to navigate these challenging times while home schooling my two daughters alongside my husband, two cats and two dogs. Sometimes I feel like a complete contradiction. I'm a homebody and an explorer, a bridge and an anchor, an old soul with adolescent humor, a healer still healing, a critic of our culture full of compassion, and a teacher who will be forever learning and unlearning.
Weaver of Words
Mother Wound Healing is the act of creating the inner safety and resources to call back ALL parts of who we are. It is to take out of hiding all those deep dark secrets we bury, the parts that feel too much, the shame filled stories, the emotions we learned to run from, the needs we learned to suppress and to see each part, each emotion, each need, each story, each memory from a place of deep love and acceptance.
It is a return to our TRUE NATURE-wild, wise, sensual, fully feeling, cyclical and deeply rooted in our bodies and our power. This is an initiation from wounded child to empowered woman. This is reclamation. This is wholeness.
Like you, I am brilliant and resilient in my capacity to adapt to life and become who I needed to be even though this meant abandoning so many dimensions of who I am along the way. As daughters, we make unconscious vows to our mothers, to our fathers, to our family systems and to our culture.
I will be good.
I will be polite, pleasing, practical and pretty.
I will be grateful and therefore never ask for more.
I will be strong, easy and have no needs.
I will abandon myself to be true to you.
I will hold it all together even when the holding hurts.
These beliefs trapped me long after I left my family home. They lived and breathed inside of me until one by one I consciously and bravely released them. This is the bridge I am here to walk you across into the Mature Feminine where your loyalty lies not in the past but in your full presence. This is the future I dream for you and the world.
Is Your Softness
I heard this whisper from deep inside my soul and I recoiled in response. I knew that softness meant vulnerability which scared the hell out of me. I knew that softness meant surrender from the war I was waging on myself rooted in self-neglect, self-abandonment and self-rejection through the insidious patterns of perfectionism, people pleasing and pretending.
To be at war with oneself is to live in resistance to the truth of who you are. And the opposite? To be RAW is to live in harmony with the truth of who you are in your natural form.
Softening ultimately meant healing my relationship with my feminine essence and my relationship to vulnerability. This first meant seeing that who I am has nothing to do with my past, the roles I play, how much I can accomplish in one day, or the expectations of others. As women we are conditioned away from who we truly are in a desire to belong. We are met with a lifetime of conflicting messages.
Softening is my act of sacred rebellion against misogyny.
MOTHERHOOD WAS THE INITIATION FOR ME TO BIRTH MY TRUE SELF.
Motherhood opened me and created the mirror I needed to see the deepest truths I had buried. I met the parts of me that I had exiled: the creative life force energy that pulses through me, the rage that shows me what matters most to me, the grief that opens me to the cyclical nature of life and the wisdom that lives in my bones.
And now with so much grace, gratitude and grit I am rooted in the earth of my body, the power of my presence and I offer myself as a guide home to yourself to reclaim those parts that you desperately long for that you have been tricked into believing can be found outside of you.